TIRED OF THESE SOCIETAL EXPECTATIONS OF HOW I SHOULD LIVE.

TIRED OF THESE SOCIETAL EXPECTATIONS OF HOW I SHOULD LIVE.

IT’S HARD HOW WE ARE LIVING IN A SOCIETY WITH PLEASURES US WITH LOADS OF EXPECTATIONS. 

WITH SO CALLED MASCULINITY, FEMINISM, CULTURE, RELIGION etc. 

Put your make up on!
Get your hair done
Go to bed

Put red lipstick on those rusty lips
Some gloss will do
So they like you
Do you like you ?

You’ve probably heard these lyrics
In one of the “Hollywood” songs
But this is Africa Baba!

Cut your shaggy Afro
It looks bad on you
Real gentlemen don’t have unkempt hair
Why are you wearing a pink shirt ?
Will people like that ?
Will you like that ?

Your unpolished shoes make you look dumb
The girls won’t like you
Don’t even smile!
Your brown teeth will make them sigh !
And don’t you dare cry,real men never cry!
Your wife is the one to cry
And you won’t get a good woman if you continue acting like that!

Speak like a man!
Sopranos are not for men
Real men roar like the lion!
You cannot show people your weakness
They will see it in your “Cinderella” voice

You want someone to talk to ?
Real men keep their feelings inside!
Don’t be a cry baby!

But I’m tired
“No!”

I’m tired of all those societal expectations of me
Of how I should act and behave
You even what to dictate what I should and shouldn’t eat
I want to be free
I want the world to see
To see me
And not a version they have created

“But you cannot go against what the elders have said”
“You will be an outcast”

An outcast?
“Yes”
Why?
Because I refuse to dance to the tune of your retrogressive cultures?
Because I have feelings and a man shouldn’t be emotional?
Because I want to cook for me lovely Belle (I love her so much by the way)

Is it because of my voice ?
Do you want me to roar like the so called real men?
And the only thing that is spewing from their mouths is hate!

I am tired
I am not ashamed of who I am
I am Kairu Karega
Born in the land of “mwangaza”
And I won’t allow you to silence me
I can’t keep the light in me any longer
My “mwangaza” must shine!
I’m burning!
I’m shining!
I’m winning!
I am not ashamed to be me
To be myself
Are you ?

🌀Kairu Karega
The poet with a thing for Africa

“Mwangaza” is a Kiswahili word for light

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