People in their 20s experience so much pressure from society at large, which expects them to figure their lives out and be successful. The reality is, not even people in their 50’s have their lives figured out yet, therefore there is absolutely no reason to be hard on yourself so early in the process.
If you’re in your 20’s, here are six things to remember as you’re trying to navigate your life:
1. Take The Biggest Risks Of Your Life.
Playing it too safe in your 20s is something you should really think twice about. Especially if you don’t owe anyone money. At this age, the most important thing is to focus on executing the highest risk behaviors of your life.
One reason why most people are not happy with how their live turnout is because they’re living their lives in reverse. They consider the safest and most practical jobs out of school, then they purchase expensive items to impress their parents or friends. This makes it difficult for them to quit the job because they have expenses to take care of.
Rather make high-risk moves around something that will make you very happy. If you always wanted to go on vacation or become like your favorite pop-star then this is a perfect time.
2. Don’t be Afraid to Take a R12 / Hour Job Over a R25k / Year Job.
Do voluntarily work or go for that job that doesn’t really pay you much, this will groom you into the person you want to become. At this age, it’s the job experience that matters the most.
Knock on doors at the companies you always dreamed to work for and if you get to do voluntarily work for someone you look up to and do an amazing job, you might get lucky and end up getting hired. For instance… if you admire Tiwa Savage or Mihlali and you had the opportunity to manage their social media pages for R12 per hour, there’s no doubt that this job would be way better than a job that pays more. Just imagine if you’re known as the girl/guy managing Mihali’s social media pages or if you appear in Tiwa Savages music videos.
Stay humble, be patient, and always have a plan. Give up caring too much about what people are going to say about your living situations. Besides, it’s your life anyway and people will always talk
3. Do it Because You Enjoy the Process Not Because You’re Chasing Results.
Be passionate about what you do, that’s the only way you will succeed. If you’re passionate then it’s easier to fall in love with the process that will eventually get you to the best results. If you focus only on getting paid so that you can go to luxury spas, get Gucci bags and clothes then you should also forget about having a long career.
Most people in their 20s are accepting jobs that pay a few thousand rands, so they can afford to buy more stuff. Don’t end up taking these jobs just because you’re trying to impress your parents and friends. Do what drives you, that one thing that keeps you up at night because you’re so passionate about it, is what you should chase. For me, writing is my passion. For you, it might be business, design, or something else. Whatever it is, be that person who’s obsessed with their craft and would be doing it for “free” no matter what.
4. Don’t Stress About Finding the Answer to “What Should I Do With My Life?”
It’s not a problem if you haven’t figured out what your craft is. You just completed matric and might not know what you want to do with your life yet, you haven’t even experienced much about life yet so don’t stress too much about it. Now is the right time to do everything you want to do, it also the time to go have different experiences and try different jobs until you find one you like.
5. Stand Up to the People You Love and Have Tough Conversations
Use this time to have the conversations you need to have with those closest to you. Don’t hold back, tell them how you feel about things, and be honest. Tell them how you feel about their expectations, about what you want to do, where you want to work, leave no stone unturned. This is a very helpful strategy that most people at this age skip because they’re afraid and don’t want to disappoint their parents and friends. Remember this is your life, you have to put yourself first before anyone and never allow other people’s opinions to hold you back or push you into choosing a career you have no interest in, you will have to face the consequences anyway.
6. Stop Debating. Start Executing
If you’re being judged, turn a blind eye to it and don’t worry about it. Believe in yourself and trust that the truth will show itself in the end. There’s no point in trying to prove people around you wrong with what you say, rather focus on your actions because actions speak louder than words. In the meantime, don’t rush through things and be patient with yourself.