Talking about teenagers.
Getting a laugh out of a child that has become a teen can be very laborious. Honestly, Gone are the days when you could easily spot a teenage girl/boy by their body size, class and attitude. Now, you could easily pass one off for a matured man/woman.
It is always advised that adults should try to be fun around them without breaking some subtle boundaries by making jokes about things like suicide, body shaming, laxity, sex or academic progress.
Despite some adults’ negative perceptions about teens, they are often energetic, thoughtful, and idealistic, with a deep interest in what’s fair and right.
Although, irrespective of their talent and intelligence they represent a surprisingly huge number of people with raw vulnerability and immaturity because of their age. And today, technology has made them become even more complex to deal with.
However, their place in the society should never be underestimated as they would come to replace this generation of adults in the near future.
Though, they test our patience and understanding yet they seem to face problems that are unique to our time and the most basic are acceptance, depression, sex, self harm, and bullying which has jeopardized many of them.
The “need for affiliation” in Abraham Maslow’s hierarchy of need: is an extrinsic source of motivation that builds esteem and improves social health, but it is difficult for teenagers to understand the problem of accepting who they are as a person. These has made many become isolated, bullied and demoralized.
Accepting who you are as a person is predicated on the quality of your perception not on the opinion of others.
Many teenagers find it hard to recognize their uniqueness and accept the fact that it’s not a crime if you don’t fit into cliques. As a result, they feel compelled easily by the pressure of youthful exuberance to get along with friends.
The best that can be done to help is to offer acceptance, show love and guidance. Their psychological strength is most likely feeble to understand the reasons behind rejections, failures and pain.
Teaching them self-assurance goes a long way in vitalizing their psyche.
Another problem they are faced with is anxiety.
It becomes debilitating when they fail, feel unaccepted, and pressured, as it leads to depression.
Depression in young people are serious. More than half of those involved in suicide are teens.
Depression is one big issue that our social life has made more intriguingly deadening and the social media is a big contributor.
Teenagers need to be taught simplicity, creation of healthy boundaries, intentionality, stress management and perseverance.
As a parent, guardian, close relative or neighbour you don’t have to wait for the dangerous signs to react. Consider giving psychological therapeutic help to them by seeing a medical counselor. This is because you might not detect the signs of ongoing internal problems until it is worse and hard to solve.
Unfortunately, this can lead to self harm with drugs or narcotics. As teenagers are faced with more temptations than we ever dreamed possible.
Not only are teenagers enticed by substances such as drugs and alcohol, often they are tempted or abused sexually. In this age, the prevalence of dangerous sexual behaviors has exploded in recent years.
That’s why communication is important for parents of teens. Although these types of discussions might appear uncomfortable, but they are absolutely imperative.
Don’t let your children struggle to relate with you or find it hard to turn and trust you for emotional support. It endangers them.
Don’t just give a child a legacy of education; give him/her that of love, bravery, health and sound spiritual experience.
©Simeon Elvis Dumle