Do you struggle again? Another day is going, you know you should get up to get your goals, but everything feels tiring, so, you just put your head back in the bed and close up the blanket. You stop trying because everything tires you. Many things drain you because you are going after the wrong thing–YOUR GOALS.
The popular idea that chasing after the big fish (our goals) without looking back is beginning to bore many people. What happens after we get our goals? Do we create another goal or we experience boredom? Setting goals is not a bad idea, it becomes a bad idea if it gets to be the major priority. Goals are just ways of having a direction. The most important thing is to focus on the processes that lead to a result.
Shocked? 🤔 Exactly my reaction after reading James Clear’s book–Atomic Habits.
Do you notice that winners and losers in the champions league have the same goal? The goal is to win the medal. What differentiates the winner from the loser is not the goal, but the continuous slight improvements James Clear calls atomic habits. The habits are the systems that lead to a result. They are atomic habits because they are little habits that won’t make a difference until you do them every time.
Easy? No. It is easy to talk about habits than to do them.
This blog post will show you 4 ways to build or break habits. Following this idea, you will have to:
- Make the habit obvious/non-obvious
- Let the habit be attractive/unattractive
- Permit the habit to be easy/uneasy
- Allow the habit to be satisfying.
Step 1: Make the habit obvious/non-obvious.
The important step in dealing with habit is making the inspirations of the habit clear around us. James Clear calls this inspiration “Cues.” They are the building blocks of creating or breaking habits. It involves making the environment encouraging to perform the habit. Creating a favourable environment to achieve a habit makes it simple to execute such a habit. For example, if you need to take your medication every day, you can build a helpful environment by putting it close to your bed. If you want to stop playing games, you can put your device in a place out of sight. Easy? Yeah, yeah. It becomes easier when you follow the second step.
Step 2: Let the habit be attractive/unattractive.
The promising way to review habit is to create a craving for it. Every habit survives because there’s a craving for it, which makes it attractive to do. Creating a craving for a habit involves associating the habit with a positive feeling. In the medication example above, it will be easy to take the medication if one associates it with a helpful feeling. Instead of thinking that you take your medication because you are unhealthy, you can make it attractive by believing that you take your prescriptions because they help you feel active. The inverse of this is to make bad habits unattractive. A quick way is to associate them with a negative feeling.
Step 3: Permit the habit to be easy/uneasy.
The additional step is to make the actual character easy to perform. A quick way to make it easy to do is by following the 2-minute rule. Perform the habit for two minutes every day. building atomic habits involve obeying the 2-minute rule rather than forcing yourself to create a habit within 30 minutes. Straightforward? Yes. It becomes effortless if there’s little or no friction between you and the actual performance of the habit. For example, to take your medication, make it easy to do by putting your prescription in a handy environment. The prescription doesn’t have to be in the bag, that is in the car. 😀. To get the opposite of this, break a habit by making it difficult to perform.
Step 4: Allow the habit to be satisfying.
If you have read to this stage, I owe you a gift–An extra tip after this one 😊. So really, habits are satisfying according to the reward. In most cases, bad habits give immediate pleasure and good habit can take a while before they can bring satisfaction. A quick way to have a satisfying habit is to have an accountability partner. Someone who, with your permission, can enforce an immediate punishment if you don’t perform a habit. That apart, an identity change serves as the major satisfaction you can get from a habit. Taking your medication will make you a healthy person. So, it satisfies your need to be healthy. To get the opposite of this, you just make a habit of unsatisfying by making the cost of it painful. Want to stop waking up late? Pay your accountability partner in dollars every time you wake up late.🥰
The bonus tip?
Build habits that work with your personality. Get to know your personality by observing what comes naturally to you. If you build your habits around this horizon, it will be easy to perform the habit stages.
The first three aspects deal with increasing the possibility that you will perform a behaviour. The last one boosts the chance that you will repeat the behaviour.
So, what are we saying in summary? You don’t have to let the desire to secure your goals overwhelm you. If you concentrate on doing the atomic habits, even on the hardest days, your goals will naturally fall in…