Don’t be in such a rush to figure everything out. Embrace the unknown and let your life surprise you.
I am a planner, it’s one of the very things I am good at and love doing. I like my life being structured, no setbacks and no surprises. I can remember my roommate saying in University, that she could set her clock by what I was doing at any particular point in time and to be honest she wasn’t lying.
I was in law school last year and I ended the year with a major highlight being my Call to the Nigerian Bar as a Barrister and Solicitor of the Supreme Court. Of course, I had a plan and I am an optimist, so I never see my plans as incapable of working. It doesn’t mean I am inflexible, I just don’t like deviating entirely from the plan.
My plan was pretty simple actually, finish law school with a first class, immediately after law school get to Lagos and make applications to secure a spot as an NYSC Associate at one of the big firms in Lagos, then get working to build a career in law. As you would expect, nothing worked out as planned.
How can you know what you are capable of, if you don’t embrace the unknown?
didn’t get my desired grade in law school, I didn’t get posted to Lagos. I didn’t get accepted into any of the law firms I wanted in Lagos. I spent more than two months writing applications to numerous law firms, attending interviews, writing tests. In some firms, I even got to the last stage only to be disappointed
Then I got two offers, it seemed like things were looking up for me. One of the offers, I got immediately after my interview without delay, and both firms followed me up from till after law school. Only for me to get calls rescinding the offers simultaneously. I was broken and pained. It might not seem like a big deal but the idea was to have a law firm and settled down already after my call.
Days later, when I had given up hope and I was just simply tired of things, I got another offer. This time around, a company I had applied to when I decided to diversify and leave law firms alone. It was not a law firm, they had nothing at all to do with law but this was the only offer I had.
I TOOK IT.
I took it and every day after, I kept asking myself questions, whether I knew what I was doing or I was simply making an emotional decision. Most of my friends thought I was making a mistake and so did my mentors. I avoided anyone that would make me question the rightness of the decision I was taking because I wasn’t sure of it and I was scared.
After asking myself all the questions in this world, I decided to take the leap. Right now, I am not sure what the future holds for me doing something other than law, but I am not one to be daunted. I have decided to take the leap and embrace the unknown without knowing exactly what the future holds in it. I am a lawyer and that can never be taken away from me. I had decided to see this my journey into the unknown as an opportunity to learn more skills to be added in my array of impressive skills I already have.
So if you are like me, you found yourself in a situation, a totally unknown and unplanned situation, embrace the unknown. Be bold enough to venture out and be strong. The world as we know it is constantly changing and things are always happening. We need to be prepared to embrace whatever will happen, whether it’s good, bad, positive or negative. We need to see the unknown as an opportunity to be stretched and build character.
Embracing the unknown will prepare you for anything essentially. You discover new things, you create new things and are able to focus on your own realities.
Embrace the unknown and live it to the fullest